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Trying to fit in as a well-spoken, articulate person is incredibly hard. Many of us feel we should dumb ourselves down to fit in. To not be so loud, not take up so much space and flaunt our knowledge into others faces.
Being a smart person it’s easy to have a conversation with other smart people and feel like you’re on their intellectual level, but in the real world, we don’t have a TV show making our life seem that funny as a “Geek” like The Big Bang Theory.
So, here are my thoughts on whether you should dumb yourself down to fit in.
Do I Dumb Myself Down?
All the time.
I used to a lot when I was growing up because I was always the new kid because we moved so much when I was growing up.
Reading and knowledge were always encouraged in our family and our parents more often than not took us on educational excursions to museums and other places to further our knowledge.
Even now, I’m happiest wandering around a museum soaking up knowledge or sitting with a book and reading.
Dumbing myself down in relationships
I’ve definitely dumbed myself down when trying to find a partner, my mum worried that my education was putting off potential partners because I have not only a Bachelors but a Masters Alhamdulillah and many Rishta Aunties warned me off doing a PhD lest I’ll be too “smart” for a man.
But Alhamdulillah when I found the right one me being “too smart” was not an issue at all.
Dumbing myself down with my husband
Guilty as charged.
In the beginning, I tried to take up less room and less space and fulfil the typical wife role of being in the background and using simpler words around Mr SH, but he eventually made me realise that I shouldn’t do that.
I like to use big words and understand abstract concepts and his knowledge of his industry astounds me, but he’s not academically inclined so he has no need or use for big words.
Although now and again he surprises me by using a word I have to look up haha!
Dumbing Myself Down in My Community
Been there and done that.
I definitely dumb myself down in front of some people simply because they always think they’re right, and I’m not about to start arguments.
They will always see women as less than no matter what they achieve in the world academically or career-wise, so sometimes for a quiet life, I say nothing.
But it does annoy me when people think one version of me is the truth when it’s really not.
Should you dumb yourself down to fit in?
It makes me sad is the wives of the Prophet (Peace be Upon Him) were the intellectuals and leaders of their times, and now Muslim women are seen as the other.
So in conclusion, do not dumb yourself down unless it’s inappropriate to do so.
Be proud of who you are, but understand the world isn’t quite there yet and therefore we all need to keep striving and sharing, cheering and supporting each other’s achievements!
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